Today, the 8th of March, is International Women’s Day. Today we celebrate economic, political and social achievements of women past, present and future. Yeah I know: you must have seen it splashed across the newspapers this morning… Perhaps it is time someone should rethink their PR strategies.
Perhaps they are gearing up to next year when IWD will have reached her (joke -you grammar puriteins) Centenary. Hundred years ago a woman was a second-class citizen, today at least in most Western society she is allowed to struggle with glass ceilings and the guilt of working motherhood. An achievement, not even meant sarcastically when you read that these days some Afghan women still feel they are better off burning themselves to death, because they cannot live with domestic torture and abuse.
Women might still have to fight and might still have to struggle and sometimes we struggle more with ourselves than fighting the strongholds of society but we should keep on going just because we can. It seems we were created two, both man and woman to keep everything in balance. Equal with individual qualities. The struggle will stay if the still patriarchical society does not acknowledge us and help us to be equal – this includes butch female power houses with a chip on their shoulder: surely we shouldn’t be working against each other, what would be the point. To reach maximum efficiency with two equal parties shouldn’t be a power struggle. We would all benefit from collaboration.
A new sort of relationship should be born one of individual communication and choice. Where a man can pick up his beloved children from school without feeling emasculated or make a career without feeling like a chauvinist pig and a woman can work late on something she feels passionate about or choose to stay at home without feeling guilty about her relationships with her children, her partner and her own mother. The change should start in the source: it is ourselves who should not feel emasculated, it is us who should not feel guilty. One hundred years on, this is our -the individual women and men’s struggle: to create our [insert Oprah-speak] best life in a highly judgemental world.
David against Goliath – this is my salute to Kathryn Bigalow, film-maker and my inspiration for today.