Standing still

“Not all those who wander are lost.” Perhaps not, but maybe there are a few who during their walkabouts are not 100% sure they are heading in the right way…

On the superficial level, the above describes my life: blame my dire sense of direction. Only last night, I managed to roam the same block looking for a pub, 100m from the station and this is while being the blue dot on my phone: my map-reading skills also need some work.

In the less literal sense, i have been trying to make mind up on which way to go. Last weekend, someone shared his philosophy “Life is just wasting time”, it is just us who want to give it meaning. I don’t know if there is such thing as meaning but at the very least if we are going to spend a day or two here, I would like my time to be pleasurable/happy. I don’t mean 24/7 debauchery and entertainment (well….) but something more Aristotlesque.

Virtue (film)
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(For those who need a refresher: “[Aristotle] says, not that happiness is virtue, but that it is virtuous activity. Living well consists in doing something, not just being in a certain state or condition. It consists in those lifelong activities that actualize the virtues of the rational part of the soul.” Quote-unquote from the Stanford Encyclopedia)

At the moment, I am just not quite sure what makes me happy as defined above, priorities seem to be shifting and as some new elements come into focus, which I hadn’t previously considered important: I wonder whether the things I now seemingly aspire to, are actually my own wishes or projections of others.

Against my nature, I have decided to forgo the wandering and stand still: to listen, to observe what is going on, in the hope that from the ashes a fire shall be woken and that a light from the shadows shall spring.

The problem with…

(Yes, yes hashtag firstworldproblems and all that jazz. Whatever.)

…buying a waterproof running jacket is that you no longer have an excuse when it actually rains.

…opposite problem when buying fancy clothes, you just want more excuses to wear them.

An aisle displaying packages of instant noodle...
Heaven. Of Some Sort. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

…lapsing and eating instant noodles is that the MSG (because those are the best ones, living life on the edge) make you instantly crave more. And they are only £1. For 3. It’s like crack but cheaper.

…having your eyes lasered is that you are constantly using artificial eye-drops because technically your eye has been fried to a crisp.

…working from home is that there are no colleagues to go out for a drink with on a Friday evening.

…working a shift pattern means that there is no such thing as a weekend really. You just do bits and bobs every day.

…getting a plant as a present: it gives you the responsibility to keep it alive. You only have to water it, how hard can this be – right?

…getting older is that since you no longer can leave a beautiful corpse, you better find something to do with your time here on earth.

…being a compulsive writer, you feel like you have to make up the word count in a blog. Even though the initial thought, moment of inspiration can be summed up in a sentence, namely that…

having your life mantra tattooed on your body, means that you will have to keep on going – no matter what life throws at you and how rocky the road ahead might seem.

10 on a wedding weekend

It’s been quiet on the Western Front, shall we do a fun post instead of over-analysing life? Here we go, 10 lessons learned from a wedding weekend:

Wedding (Photo credit: 蓝上弦)
  1. Pop some colour – you cannot wear black and ladies, unless it is you up at the front, you probably shouldn’t wear white.
  2. Wear great underwear.
  3. Try out shoes before the big day or have a comfortable alternative, even if it isn’t you tracking down the aisle.
  4. Eat before the ceremony. It is going to be a long happy alcohol filled day.
  5. Enjoy your drink, it will help if you missed point 3 – still have some water, it will help if you missed point 3.
  6. Don’t hide from the camera for a change: everyone’s made an effort, so let’s remember the days we actually looked good.
  7. Prepare yourself for an onslaught of emotions: excitement, fear, awkwardness, happiness, tears. It might not your wedding but it’s all on the cards.
  8. Say hello to the old gang and welcome the new. Yes there is much to catch up on but there are people in the proximity who don’t know why “that phrase” always reminds you of  “Whitechapel, 2006”.
  9. Dance. If you dare not dance on a wedding amongst the jumping, sugar-filled young and the melancholic, tipsy, grooving elders, you need to revisit point 2.
  10. Enjoy yourself and have some good, honest, clean fun. Trust me: it’s the new sexy.